Now, I've heard many wishes for being young again, or that they didn't have to "grow up", or that all of those "terrible" things never happened.
I don't think people realize that growing up simply means accepting everyone for who they are, and only disagreeing when you earnestly disagree with what they have to say. The only thing you really do when you disagree is state your opinion and your reasons behind, rather then beat them up about how "stupid" you think they are for having a different idea about things. Growing up isn't saying good-bye to saying odd things, or doing crazy stunts. Rather, it opens up more possibilities.
Those terrible things that happen in your life are part of what shapes who you are. Likely, your most important memories are attached to something "bad" that happened. Most of how you act and why you act like that are also likely attached to some very strong emotions and very different situations that may have done quite the number to you for a while.
This post was influenced by a small realization about growing up, and by The Worthing Saga by Orson Scott Card. I suggest reading it, as it's as strong a piece of literature as any AP book.
Uh-oh, another Orson Scott Card fan! Whee!
ReplyDeleteHe is definitely one of my favorite authors.
Trouble is, he write so many epics, I can't keep them straight.
I did read it, but the reference is not coming forth :(
At any rate, I certainly agree that bad things seem to have more of an emotional impact on our memories than good memories. Is this because we are pre-conditioned to expect good memories? As we went through care-free childhood, we didn't expect to be pummelled, punished or persecuted. So when those things happened, they jarred us in a way that roller coasters and first kisses could not.
I think we never totally grow up - experiences are (or should be) challenging us continually.
Cheers,
Mitch
P.S. Your blog is electric! I love that background.
Cheers,
Mitch